It’s kinda difficult to write about kindness after disciplining your child which is what happened just a few minutes ago. It isn’t the happiest place to be in, for me as a parent or for my child. That’s why it is important to make sure that there is a restoration and a reaffirming of relations between parent and child immediately after. It is in this safe haven that the child learns to mirror forgiveness and acceptance. This is where kindness is imparted.
I am reminded of a song that I learned several years ago, the lyrics go “It’s your kindness that leads us to repentance O, Lord. Knowing that you love us, no matter what we do, makes us want to love you too.” I have found these words so true in my own life and something I want in my relationship with my children. I have found that harsh, judgmental discipline did so little to change me. It only made my heart hard and distant. External compliance does not translate to internal obedience. It’s only when kind and tender words of genuine love and concern are spoken that one’s heart becomes more open to correction and where walls of defense break down.
I try to remember moments when I have been given mercy when I discipline my kids. Of course I want them to know justice… that there is a consequence for wrongdoing. One cannot know and fully appreciate the kindness of God if one does not have a full understanding of His justice. I want them to experience mercy… to receive acceptance and forgiveness even if it is not deserved. The kindness of God.
It is difficult to give something that you do not have. I have abundantly received this over and over again … this divine act of KINDNESS… from a God who exacts justice but instead dispensed mercy to a wretch like me. With His help, I hope that I may be able to mirror Him to them. And if ever there are times that I don’t, I trust in His mercy towards me as well.





















